No one likes thinking about a time when they might not be able to make their own medical decisions. But planning ahead is one of the most thoughtful things you can do for yourself and the people you love. At the heart of that planning is choosing the right person to speak for you if you ever can’t speak for yourself.

This person, your “health care agent,” will be the one making decisions about your care, treatments, and more. It’s a big responsibility. So, how do you choose the right person? Here are a few things to think about:

1. Are they calm under pressure?

Things can get emotional and intense during a health crisis. You want someone who won’t panic; someone who can take a deep breath, stay grounded, and focus on what you would want.

2. Do they really know what matters to you?

Have you talked with them about your beliefs, your wishes, what quality of life means to you? Your agent doesn’t have to agree with your choices; they just need to be willing to honor them.

3. Are they close enough to be there when needed?

Living nearby can help, especially if in-person decisions need to be made quickly. But even if they’re far away, some people are great at jumping into action from anywhere.

4. Do they have the time and energy for this?

Some folks already wear a dozen hats. They are a parent, a caregiver, a boss, etc. Make sure whoever you choose has the availability to really show up when it counts.

5. Have they done this before?

It’s okay if they haven’t, but someone with medical or caregiving experience might feel a little more confident stepping into this role. What matters the most is good judgment and the ability to speak up.

6. Have you asked them?

This might sound obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people assume their agent is “fine with it” without ever asking. Have the conversation. Make sure they’re on board. Make sure they understand what the being your agent really involves.

7. Not sure who to choose?

Sometimes, family dynamics are tricky. Or maybe there just isn’t anyone you feel comfortable asking. That’s okay. In those situations, you can appoint a professional. A person who does this kind of work regularly and is legally bound to follow your wishes.

Bottom line:

Pick someone who knows you, respects your choices, and can step up when it matters most.